Monday, February 4, 2013

it takes a village


balancing work and motherhood are harder than i thought!  I never want to compromise my family life for work, I never want to miss a minute with them.   There will be a time when they are grown and all I have is free time, and I will miss the crazy life!  But, I still like to have a foot in the door, so I am not a weeping puddle of mush, when they eventually do grow up and leave me! perish the thought!!!
Conventional wisdom holds that there is a huge chunk of time while my kids are at school that I should be able to be productive in~but, never seem to be.  Could it be that laundry, dishes, cleaning, shopping, cooking, social and school obligations are so consuming, that there is nothing left for "work"... YES.
so, i have decided to hire a bit of help.    I found a wonderful  service through Berkeley Parents Network that fit me with the right person.  Her name is Esmerelda.  Isn't that the greatest name?! I think that was Samantha's mother's name on Bewitched!  Oh, I did love that show! I feel like I twitched my nose and she magically appeared.  She comes twice a week for a few hours and helps me with laundry, cleaning and cooking!  That's twice a week I can focus completely on work while the kids are in school.  I am over the guilt of having someone help me run the house.  It is a full time job, and if I am trying to start a business, I am going to have to delegate some of my other responsibilities until it is up and running. (and maybe long after:).   I feel lucky to have found her, and she feels the same about us!  
I think we as mother's try to do it all.  And I think we can have it all, we just forget where we put it sometimes!  

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